Your fear is by far the biggest obstacle to taking life changing actions. These may be fears that you are aware of, but quite often it is fears that you may not even be consciously aware of. For example, like many people you might like to start a business and have a lot of business ideas in this regard, but maybe you find yourself unable to take the next step. Something holds you back, Until you recognize and deal with that issue you may find yourself stuck.
I know of a person that had such a problem. She had gone into business several times and nothing seemed to have worked out. During one coaching session, she discovered what was holding her back. You see, this lady’s parents had divorced when she was very young. After the divorce, she lived with her mother who was not wealthy. Her father, on the other hand, was wealthy and would get her expensive gifts and generally provide for her materially. Well, through coaching, she discovered that she was actually sabotaging her chances of success because to her, being wealthy meant being like her Dad. She felt that by being wealthy she would be betraying her mother who was not wealthy.
So although outwardly and logically she was in business to make money, inwardly, she was afraid to make money, because she felt it would make the person she did not want to be-her father.
It is important to be clear on what your fears are. They are by far the biggest obstacle that you have to deal with in order to move ahead and succeed.
The example I have given also illustrates that knowing the origins of our fears is very important in dealing with them.
You may know what your fears are, but may not be clear on the reason you feel that way. The answer usually lies in the origin of the fear. Coaching and counselling can help you dig deeper and understand yourself better with respect to your fears.
